The Teen-20something Guide for: Going Home for the Holidays
The family is piling in and in a few days you will most likely be surrounded by a house FULL of different generations, different personalities, a lot of personal conversation and maybe even an awkward situation or two... we call it the Holidays. "MERRY CHRISTMAS!" "Oh, you're still single?" "So, tell me again how your dreams and degree are going to get you an actual career?" "We love you, we're family, tell us all your life's happenings and we will share our opinions openly in your face!" Whether you're a teen or a 20-something, family Holidays can sometimes seem, well, overwhelming. Trust me, I know. ESPECIALLY if you're an introvert, have different beliefs than you’re family or have been away for a while (living in another state, attending College etc.). Because as a teen-20something, let's be honest, there's a lot to talk about! Why? Because you are in one of the most important seasons of your life. The season of transitions and Becoming into a unique individual young woman. You've got a lot going on: a load of daily decisions, a ton of new experiences etc.
But we got this. God has this. And we can go through the Holidays with confidence & peace! How do we become confident in the season of life we are in, and even become thankful for the occasional chaos of family filled Holidays? Welcome, to your guide ;).
I want to Become a young woman who is confident with where she is in her process of life, FIRM IN WHO GOD SAYS SHE IS & is comfortable sharing the details of her life even if she doesn't have it all figured out yet. You too?
This stage of life is a BEAUTIFUL & messy one in the midst of all it's transitions, and you were created to THRIVE in it. So let's learn how we can "champion" being confident as we Go Home for the Holidays.
Spend time talking with God out loud about whats going on in your life currently
Get some practice speaking out loud with the most encouraging person in your corner- God! Ask Him to give you peace about where your process has brought you, and the transitions & decisions you've had to make. Figure out how you're going to word what you say, before you're greeted at the door with tons of questions.
2. Combat the "career" question with passion and confidence
If there was any time to express your passion about your dreams- it is now! Don't shy away and lose all of your gumption just because someone is questioning you. Be bold! "I love nothing more than women's ministry, and I have dreams to impact multiple people and be in vocational ministry. I am confident that this is God's will for me, and I trust His provision!" Whatever your God-given dreams are, He wasn't teasing you when He gave them to you- defend God's deposit in you!
3. Take occasional "getaways"
Even if it is just for a long second in the bathroom, take times to get away-take a deep breath- and refocus your attention on the God who loves you and is for you. Breath in deep and exhale your worry and overwhelmed emotions. Guard your heart, and remember that you are worth celebrating! Let God love on you during these quick getaways.
4.Surround yourself with someone FUN
Whether it's your hilarious uncle, or your busy body grandma... make sure to get yourself around people who will be lighthearted with you and make you laugh a little! We all need people in our corner, so find your person for the Holidays!
5. LOVE WELL
You may be an introvert, your family may be a little much sometimes... but they are your family. And God chose them as your family for a reason. Get to know something new about your family members, and spend time loving on them throughout the Holidays. Remember, we are all just people and we all have something we are going through. Have grace, be love and enjoy your time! You can be thankful- you are blessed!
6. Relax
The Holiday's don't have to be exhausting or draining physically and emotionally. Let your walls down and go into your Holiday Season knowing that you were created for such a time as this. You were chosen to be a momma to those kiddos, to be a niece of that aunt and to love people the way God loves you. YOU GOT THIS!
LET'S GO CHAMPION THE HOLIDAYS #becomingtribe!
LET'S CHAT BELOW:
How do you feel about going home for the holidays? Do you have some other tips for thriving in the Holiday Season? We would love to know and talk to you about them! Let us know in the comments below! <3
We love you. You got this,
The Becoming Team
